These posts kind of threw me.
My AH DOES do the laundry, picks up dirty clothing off the floor and cleans the cat box. He holds down a full-time job. He is outside now cleaning the cars. He DOESN'T cook, but I enjoy cooking, and we made an agreement long ago that if he cleans the bathrooms I will gladly cook (had three sons, so always had a house full of males, which made that a tremendously good deal).
So maybe I don't have it so bad.
Even though he drinks excessively (and daily) and is nasty when he is drinking.
So I guess he's a functioning alcoholic. But the key that I need to remember is that it is progressive and will get worse (as it has over the last few years).
And despite the fact that he does do all these chores does not make it any easier, or less painful. I would gladly do it ALL if he would just stop drinking.