Been there, done that so many times both in person and on the phone.
Like Alice says-they wait for ANY excuse to blame you, will say or do anything to bait you, kind of like a tiger waiting to pounce on prey.
Detach, detach, detach, remember the 3 C's, repeat the Serenity Prayer, move on to something more enjoyable.....like you're doing now, enjoying your girls, your dogs and the night air!