WTBH --
You are open and honest about what is going on in your life. I don't want to speak for other people, but I can relate to some of the posters on this thread, being frustrated with how you put up with things that you are way to valuable to have to put up with.
It's hard to handle those harsh comments, the ones that question why you're not ten steps, two years, oodles of time, ahead of where you are right now. Because you wish you were. And you wish it were that easy.
Just remember that whatever the comments, they come out of frustration for your having to live in the situation you do and love for you. Sort of like when you were a kid and weren't home before curfew and your parents chewed your hindquarters off. Until you realized they were just scared when you weren't home on time, it pissed you off, right?
Same thing here. When people tell you you're an idiot for not makin' this or that decision, it's usually because they want to save you pain they have had to live through. (((hugs)))