I guess I don't understand WHY you are in "recovery"???? you aren't the one with 3 duis and history of obnoxious loud embarrassing drunk behavior....you are on the receiving end.
it's great that you are so supportive and loving, but if the tables were turned, would he give that much of his energy to you?
personally, i am tired of always giving and giving up what I want for someone else's comfort to become front and center.