I remember cornering my ex while she took a bath and read her the portion of the BB where it says relapse is by no means always a bad thing, and the wife should be cheerful, loving and encouraging whenever I got drunk again.
Of course I skipped over that part about some men being insincere and will misuse the good will of others. There was no need to confuse her.
He's likely softening you up for the bad news, and setting up a return to drinking or may already be drinking.
You get to decide how much of his crap you'll swallow. It bugs me when jerks misuse AA exactly like I did.