Originally Posted by
wanttobehealthy 
Is it completely unhealthy to feel "relieved" that I am not alone in my job F up thanks to my inability to deal with H's alcoholism?
Nope, not at all. I think we find ourselves stuck in really unhealthy situations because we are afraid and embarassed of getting honest with ourselves and others. We compare our insides to their outsides and feel we don't measure up. It's a very self-defeating thing to do... and keeps us from being healthy. When we start getting honest, with ourselves, and talking to others TRUTHFULLY... then we step back into reality and, in almost every case for me, will be surprised that the reaction we get from others is care and compassion. I have yet to have a single person react to me with disgust... not one.
Originally Posted by
wanttobehealthy Maybe if I had spoken up sooner a lot of things would've been different.
That internal dialogue has got to stop... NOW. You did the best you could with the tools you had at the time. You are where you are... now you have newer better tools... use them.