Kind of OT XBF stalked me yesterday..
I went to the gym with a friend that is in town, took Pilates, my day was going FINE, then I see missed calls from XBF and a message asking about gym prices (I stopped calling/answering him a while ago).
Next I know he is at the door staring at me.
In two years he had sworn he was going to a gym.
He never did it.
So now that I am dettached he goes to "my" gym which is FAR AWAY from his home/he always said he wanted to go to a gym close to his home.
WTF.
I took my kick boxing class and he just stared at me the last half an hour.
I felt so angry and sad, not feeling like a victim but more like "WHEN DO I GET A PEACEFUL DAY?? WHEN?"
I remembered I can't cure or control anyone..
Afterwards he asked us if he wanted us to have dinner... me, the idiot said yes... then I was driving with my friend and he was tailgating us and I thought "WTF I want to have dinner with my gf, period" so I called him and told him to get lost.
Had dinner with girlfriend. She kept tweeting&checking Facebook. Oh well. Can't control her, either, but I find that VERY disrespectful.
Then I arrived home and called XBF and told him never to go to my gym again and if I see him there again I will stop going and would take other measures because its NOT NORMAL for him to call me and stalk me and that he had made me feel VERY uncomfortable.
He kept saying he missed me and was having a hard time and I just saw how incredibly bad choices I have made and how I set myself up engaging with LOSERS unable to behave as DECENT HUMAN BEINGS.
I felt angry and sad and exhausted and cried a little but I told myself I handled it well.
Then today a coworker called me telling me why I haven't done X and Y... I mentioned I had been busy with another account's activities... then proceeded to go to the office. I was hungry, got a huge Subway sandwich.
I realized some people don't like it when you start looking after yourself. But they dont give a damn if you get ill due to stress, or if YOU are having a bad time. They are selfish.
Huge lessons I have learned. I am starting to stop apologizing.