but I need to get her diagnosed as NEEDING a nursing home.
Ah yes, dear dear Florida, yuk.
You are correct and you may have to find a different neurologist and since you have 'power of attorney' can give the Dr all information before visit or during the visit and see what new Dr says, or if new Dr would recommend an 'Alzheimer' type unit in a Nursing Home facility.
I say this only because I know the 'stress' of "the child being turned into the parent" and I had a lot more time in recovery when it happened to me, and yes both my parents were in Florida at the time, lol
I honestly lost track of the number of different doctors I took each too to finally get a 'confirmed' diagnosis and then finding a 'suitable' facility started, and I am an RN. I think the only way that helped me, is that I did NOT take any B.S. from the different Drs.
PM me if I can help in anyway and we will talk.
Love and hugs,