I saw such business from my EX as that of fish thrashing in the bottom of a boat. One last attempt at getting back to his sense of normalcy tugging against reality.
I never told my EX I was studying the twelve steps or seeking recovery, though I spent a lot of time wanting to make such an announcement. He certainly would have thrown it in my face is the same pedestrian way. I don't regret keeping it to myself one bit.
Good for you for not engaging in the quacking or in may case, in the thrashing!
Alice