So my boyfriend who is in AA wants to know what detachment means, so my answer was, ok, you know how you said you wanted a bike? ok well 2 months ago it would have been operation get that boy a bike! I would have scoured craigslist, been texting you pictures of bikes, and setup going out to look at a few, now I say to myself, if he wants a bike, hell go get himself a bike and i leave it at that lol.
Then I looked it up in the Al-anon book and they said it was separating the person from the disease, to say ok, hes doing this or that, but is that him as a person, or is it the disease? As a way to better understand why they do the things they do.
I have a feeling the way hes looking at it is like detaching means I wont want to be with him sooner or later
What are your opinions of what detachment is? I would like to be able to give him an answer and figure it out for myself at the same time