Remarkable isn't it how the "focus on your own recovery" doesn't apply to the A when they want to judge and be paranoid about what goes on in al anon.
I've received all the same quacking from my "R"(not)AH and have invited him to come to al anon since his father and brother are both alcoholics. He refuses to of course and says it's not bc he doesn't want to but bc I have "poisoned" the group against him. SURE!