Originally Posted by
GettingBy 
"fair enough. Be who you want, Im not asking you to change. I'm just saying I've come to the realization that's not what I want. I don't think I need to include alcohol to build relationships. In fact, I think I prevents you from having a REAL relationship. I prefer to surround myself with people like me... Wo like to run, bike, and things like that. That's what I value."
This is making a YOU statement.
This is knowing that his ideal is not yours.
This is truth, and you know it is.
I am not sure how he reacted to that clear statement.
BUt, it does not matter.
I hope your resolve stands strong.
The justification of his alcoholism by stating that he needs to do it in order to start and succeed in a business is addiction 101.
And, no...in my experience, he probably wont change all that much if he did get sober, it would be another LONG, HARD mountain...with you adjusting, and tolerating, and waiting. ...for him to grow up and out of his addict thinking.
The universe is helping you make this happen, and keep looking for the signs that say GO.