I am 60 and I left. I left a lakefront home with an abusive active alcoholic, divorced 3 1/2 years and in a 1 bedroom apt. and happy as a clam with two cats and a bird. I go where I want, do what I want, don't hear any quacking, eat what I want, have my wonderful new recovery (Alanon) friends, no mental or verbal abuse, no King-Baby running the show. Try it.....you'll like it. Live in the solution not in the problem. Let go or be dragged.