I have SR bookmarked for easy reference. When I don't come and at least read the posts, I feel there's something missing-a reality check,if you will.
I made the decision to end things with EXABF three weeks ago. Got it marked in my daybook, along with all of my school assignments, things to do, thatkind of stuff. In that book, I wrote down words to remind me of why I left him, kind of like Pelican's list. When I question my decision or feel like re-engaging, I come here to SR, tlk to some AL-Anon friends and read the words I wrote.
Since I made the decision, I have managed to do a lot of chores I neglected because I was so focused on the A's issues. Relinquishing myself of that burden has freed me is so many ways-I am slowly finding my focus, keeping busy, coming here, going to Al-Anon meetings......each day, it gets a bit easier and I am enjoying the freedom to be me.