Hang in there.
I personally refused to let my xah do a detox without doctor input in my house. It scared me and I thought it would be awful for the kids. He either had to go to detox, or I left with the kids for a long weekend. I am not a nurse and wanted no part in being responsible for his safe detox. He chose not to detox if I wouldn't take care of him. :shrug: Another time he went to the doctor and got pills to take and did detox at home.
I had been practicing detachment for a little bit by then or I might not have been able to make that decision. I'm so glad I did though.