Originally Posted by
sillysquirrel 
I am to the point now where the thought of it makes me ill. If you love someone...why would you say mean and hurtful things to them?
On the other hand, if you love someone...why would the thought of sex with them make you ill?
It doesn't sound much like love to me, on either side. I say this as someone whose 20-year marriage went down a similar path. There are different kinds of love, IMO. I still love my XAH as a human being, as the father of my children. But, as a husband and life partner--NO WAY.
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