Lots of similarities to my husband. I have come to realize that he doesn't care about how I feel at all. He, too, says I only want him for his paycheck. Any affection or "love" he may show me is because he simply wants sex. He gauges the health of our marriage on how often we have sex. I could be the saddest person ever and as long as I pretend to be happy and have sex with him, he is okay with that. I am not, though.