I just found out today but he has been sober for a week now. I know that we can work through that. We have sat and talked a lot today about how I feel and what to do. I just wish that he would open up to me about having the urge to use rather than me finding out after the fact. He says he's embarrassed but I'm his wife for better or worse. I wished he realized that it's easier to work through it before it becomes a problem.