Hi newt
We like a book called "Codependent no more" by Melody Beatty, hope you can get a copy.
I had a bf like that, who also used to cut himself.
Our only responsability is with ourselves.
3 Cs
Can't cure them
Didn't cause this
Can't control them
You allow this in your life, you can choose not to allow it anymore. Its all your choice...
You are not alone, we get you! keep reading and posting... this is a great site, lots of wisdom, hope, experience and compassion.