Sounds like my XABF, to be honest.
Always pretending that everything was okay, he was "all fixed."
The next stage, when I started to believe that maybe he was right and it was "fixed," was to tell me how it was only
his stuff that was "all better" but I had to fix
my stuff... And the cycle would start again.
Originally Posted by
StrongEnuf 
Morning.... as I was getting in the shower.....
Him: "I can't wait to make love to you tonight"
Me: "Are you kidding? I didn't know we were anywhere near that point AGAIN"
Him: "well you just got naked infront of me!"
Me: "Actually I was getting into the shower and the door was closed! Maybe I should have locked it"
Taking everything he can, and twisting it to mean what he wants it to mean, then trying to convince you that it's your fault, you're sending him mixed messages, or to convince you that you feel differently than you feel.
XABF's favorite was to declare things like, "Well, you said this apartment was ours! Now you're saying it's just yours!" when all I had told him was it could be "our place to stay together on the occasional weekend" - he used that to move in, then protest when I tried to get him out again.
They'll twist anything.
You
are strong enough. Just tap into that strength - you
can do this.
You need your space. You need to be you.
If you give in to his concept of "us" you're really giving up your "you," because his "us" really simply means "him".