Sorry he is reacting that way. The fact that he is reactive to your need for support is troubling on another level, it is never good to isolate or to pressure someone (i.e. a girlfriend) to not reach out to others for support. It is unhealthy and controlling to me.
It is tough to be in your situation.
Funny because my 'guy' would say stuff like "don't freak out" or "don't trip". Wonder where that comes from or what the heck it actually means. If you figure that out, let me know
I assume he isn't in AA? I can't remember your story in full but I feel for you. Just keep doing what you are doing for yourself regardless of what you decide to do. If it were me I'd ask him why he had a reaction to his question when you responded. Would be nice to know what he was 'freaking' out about.