Welcome to the SR family!
You have found a wonderful resource of information and support. Please make yourself at home by reading and posting as much as needed.
You are not alone.
We understand what it feels like to have a loved one change from someone we appreciate to someone we don't understand because of addiction.
Alcoholism is progressive. It gets worse.
Your ABF sounds as if his alcoholism is progressing. Based on your post, he says one thing and does another. He says he will quit, but he has not made any effort to stop.
He also says while sober that he will not hit you. Based on your experiences with him, can you trust his words?
I learned that while living with alcoholism, I had to stop listening to the words and start looking at the actions of my alcoholic.
I am concerned for your safety.
Please keep reading and posting. We care about you!