Originally Posted by Tuffgirl

Here's a quote from Dr. Laura:
"I clarify to people that there is a difference between an 'event' and a 'pattern'. In an event, for which a person is truly sorry, there is room for forgiveness and even a continuation of intimacies. Where there is a pattern, the other person is simply dangerous and destructive, and apologies are manipulations to keep you around to hurt some more."