Your punishing your children for letting them live with the violence. What is more important HIS wellbeing or the wellbeing of your kids? -Sorry for being so blunt
I just made that choice to protect my kids and while it wasn't easy to be in the same court room as him and not change my mind on the order of protection and it's hard not to fall into the "poor him, where will he stay,etc" I thought of my kids instead of him..he is a big boy he will survive.
Please get you and your children safe.