Stugotz, I hear where you're coming from with the wording. For me I think it's the opposite..."relapse" doesn't diminish my accountability, but it elevates the importance of it in my mind. "Choosing to drink" doesn't sound like as big a deal to me as RELAPSE, if that makes sense. When I write in my journal, certain dates are marked RELAPSE, and I know if I'm struggling I can look back at those to read about how crappy I felt at the time. Not sure if this makes sense...but for me, it's not about accountability, because it's always *my* responsibility...it's a matter of the significance of the event and not wanting to go there again.