Reading this thread has been particularly helpful for me today, so thank you. I have always tended toward co-dependency in relationships, allowing my eyes to focus too long and often on someone else's homework (great phrase, thank you!)
I have been cautious in my current relationship to recognize the signs of codependency and lean away from it. However, my sober alcoholic boyfriend's cancer diagnosis 2 months ago pushed me further down the path of co-dependency than I've ever been. I abruptly cleared my schedule of some other commitments, thinking he would need me. Sick... or just someone in love and wanting to help?
It is a fine line between love and codependency. Thank you for sharing your experience, strength and hope.