My ex was an Alcoholic. But before I dated him, I dated someone who was "normal". I broke up with him and when I was with the A, I wished I had never broken up with the first guy. It is a WORLD of difference. Everything comes so much easier. The relationship didn't feel like a job like the relationship with the A. I never cried, felt crazy, or had to monitor his drinking. In fact, he never got drunk. He wanted to spend time with me and didn't pull away when I wanted to get close. I never second guessed anything because it was natural. He was mentally healthy. We had a real connection. But, i grew out of love like in any relationship and moved on the be with the A. That's when the crying, frustration, and crazy feelings started. When you are with a "normal healthy" person, trust me, you WILL know because it won't seem like a job and you won't feel like the weight of the world is on your shoulders.