I did at first.
I was so hell bent on NOT complying
I came off as a ... mean person.
ALso
I'd be way too harsh
because it took such a 'push' to get whatever I needed to say out
it came our like a stomach punch.
It's a part of the learning curve.
Taking up for yourself is not being mean.
That's one of those ingrained things like
if we throw away food
someone is gonna starve in India.
It took me forever
to be able to throw away food.
I think it's kinda the same thing.
When we're raised that taking care of ourselves is 'bad'
that's a whole 'pavlov's dog' thing that we're trying to re wire.
It comes easier over time
and there's no guilt attached either.
Hope that helps?