the guy who has trouble holding down a job and paying his bills...thinks being alone and single is best for him? Really??
It doesn't matter what is "best" for him. What matters is what's best for YOU. You DO deserve better, so he is right about one thing, even if he didn't really mean it.
It really bothers me that if we divorce, his "story" will be that he doesn't want to be married, so he looks like a cool, tough guy who doesn't want to be tied down to the next woman who comes along.
Once you have truly had enough, it won't matter to you what his "story" is.
I can't tell whether this is reality now or just another alcoholic ploy to go on a bender away from home for the weekend.
It's probably a little of both. He wants to go drink, so that's what he's going to do.
The only thing you have to do is decide what it is YOU want. Do you want to continue on the way you have been, with someone who obviously does not care about your feelings? You really do deserve better. I hope you realize that.