You're not alone, callie...
I would agree that he is absolutely abusive.
You might want to check out the links here:
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...out-abuse.html
Have you ever called a Domestic Abuse hotline? They can help you work through things, figure out emergency plans, escape plans, and simply validate that no, you're not crazy.
Originally Posted by
ICU 
For the US: National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-7233
1-800-787-3224 (TTY For The Deaf) By state: United States DV Resources by State
(Click on your state for various hotline phone numbers and other information)
It is good that you are working on your options right now, it is important to look out for your health and safety, as well as the health and safety of your son.
The way you described it, I would say he is escalating... Take care of yourself, explore your options, that way when the time comes, you'll
know what you need to do.
You are not alone, and you're not crazy.
You are working towards a brighter future, for yourself and your son, and that can never be the wrong thing to do.
Baby steps. One thing at a time, you can do this.