Yes, it is moving fast, but the whole scenario changes when threats of violence are introduced. You are NOT over reacting. You are believing him when he threatens physical violence. Unfortunately, you don't have the luxury of waiting until he decides to make good on his threat. You are being given a gift in that he will be gone for a few days. You can make a plan and then the day he leaves, put it into action. Don't wait until the last day before he is due to return. Give yourself as much lead time as you can. I know this all probably sounds very drastic, but it really isn't. Not only are you with someone who is threatening to harm you physically, you are in a foreign country. Please, follow through on your decision to call the consolate and the abuse hotline. Getting information is never the wrong thing to do.