Jake: I'm glad you have your mom to lean on and vice versa!
You seem to have gotten your feet back underneath yourself and is headed into a good paying career. Just stay on track with the direction you are headed in.
The military isn't for everyone. LOL I sure as hell couldn't have done the Navy. I'm no squid and don't do water. I was in the Army National Guard, but worked a lot of full time for years. So it felt like I was Active Duty Army. You could always transfer to another branch and do the reserve/guard side of it. But I'd wait until all these wars settle down!
But you are headed in a good direction, so I wouldn't do the military at all, if it stresses you out! My daughter and SIL are both AD Air Force. She's been in for 11 years. But she was raised with military parents in her life. Dad retired from AD Air Force.
Keep posting, you'll find a lot of support on the boards here. The Hen House is where I do most of my posting. It's open to anyone and you can talk about anything. And we do!!! LOL It's under the substance abuse section.
TOD