hi suki,
i understand that they have to want to do it themselves... i'm actually hoping that him seeing the huge problems and my unhappiness will shake him up, force him to face the consequences of his actions and make him want to do something. there has to be a reason for them to want to change...
the problem is that i don't want to walk out on him and say "contact me when you're sober" because i said that i would always stand by him, not to mention i am seriously concerned that if i did leave him he would end up hurting himself if i wasn't not around to take care of him (a perfect example of that is, if i hadn't turned up and seen his hand bleeding, he could have bled to death). i know that is a kind of enabling, and no i don't want to be someone's babysitter, but when you love someone you will always put their safety first. there is no way i would want my leaving him to put his life at risk. i know it would not be my fault, but that would be cold comfort to me. arghh this is so hard.
