SoloMio

Love that quote... that's exactly what we sometimes buy into, believing in the "star-crossed lover" story. Why do we think love and pain have to go hand-in-hand??

I, for one, believed I was "supposed" to be with my AH for many reasons, including:

• I wasn't planning on being where I was the night we met, so it must have been fate
• The night we met, the time we spent just talking just flew by
• He loved Shakespeare -- see! a precursor to the star-crossed lover thing
• Scariest reason: He was my first lover
• I wrote in my diary "I have a reason this meeting was meant to be"
• Etc. etc.

Now, I know there are just a few good reasons to stay with him:

• We have to be together in our minds and hearts
• We have to have mutual respect
• We have support each other's growth
• We have to have the right kind of love for each other--one which starts with self-respect, and is not a possessive, needy love

You are doing great--keep it up!