Originally Posted by
blwninthewind 
And that is NOT acceptable to me as a partner in this marriage. I realize that he needs his AA to stay sober, and it must be a priority however, so does his family. Maybe not ME, but definitely his kids.
You do matter. That is what this is all about. Taking care of you and guess what? You deserve his time as well.
I know it feels good to speak your peace.
I think you should be aware that it is going to change the face of your A.
It will change your relationship.
If he is like mine, he very much cares what the outside world thinks about him. Sober or not.
He wants to look like a good guy. You have now challenged that, which is a whole nother can of worms.
He is also going to see that he is losing "control" of you. You were exactly where he wanted you before. Unhappy, unsure if he loved you....
Be aware. Be aware. Be aware.
Each A handles things differently. But I think you should start watching for signs from him about how he is going to handle this loss.
I doubt he is going to embrace your new found sense of strength. This will be a threat to him, I think.
So be aware.