Hi Nina,
Glad you found us.
I'm the mom of 2 addict sons. The oldest one, (37) had a son with his GF, the baby is now 2 yrs. old.
My youngest son, (32) is in prison for selling Meth.
It changes everything when grandkids are involved. I would easily be able to detach from all the drama, but for the grandson.
If I read that right, you want to detach completely from her and her addiction, yet I'm not sure what you want to do about the grandkids?
One thing I know for sure, you seem to be trying to get her in your line of thinking, and that isn't going to happen. She has a good life right now, with his mom enabling her, and the children...doesn't sound like that's going to change soon.
And when you go to court, I fully agree, you should be telling the truth.
Not sure if I said anything substantial, but only your daughter can fix herself, and you already know that.
Hugs...from one grandmom to another.......