Originally Posted by
UniqueNewYork 
Is there a point where I have to accept that this person will never change will never stop smoking? I feel so conflicted lately. Its like I want him to snap out of this bs and become the great person thats inside him and I feel like I can lead by example as long as I stay sober and keep moving forward.
If this is really impacting your life, you might try Al-Anon. From what I understand, it's largely about accepting that you can't make others get or stay sober and that the only person whose behavior you can change is your own.
GG