Can't say I for sure wouldn't cave either, but some things to think about are..how will this effect the other kids?We (parents) generally suck as treatment centers and are too involved to be good recovery partners/monitors..is inpatient not an option?....can you suggest inpatient with the staff? out patient is successful with highly motivated individuals..my RAD did inpatient for a month..then outpatient for 3...just some options.. hang in there..you are doing great.