I recomend reading the classic reading section.It really hit home for me.I to am new here and have lived and still do with an active alcoholic for 20 years.I have many many issues myself. Let me suggest you read this board all you can.Read everything. Also you say you know your co-dependent but have changed all you can.Don't put yourself it that frame of mind. We can always improve our coping skills. This is a great resource.......Use it