When exAH left, he berrated me for looking "gleeful" over his departure. I wasn't gleeful, but I was enormously glad, it was unbelievably better than the life I had been living. I felt like I was walking a couple of inches up from the ground instead of dragging my feet through the concrete.
approx 1 month before I decided to seperate, we had a damp-proof course put in the house, ds is asthmatic and to move him from the fumes and dust and re-plastering I rented a house for a week half a mile away, ex decide to stay at our home and drink round the clock "supervising" the work.
That was my taster, it was fabulous, just me and the children, so much peace.
Life isn't a bowl of cherries now, but when I think about how life would be if I was dealing with the stuff that life throws at everyone, AND having to live with him, I am still grateful, daily, to have made the decision to get away.
enjoy your peace Solo, this is what life can be if we let it.