Lightbulb moments are the best!
Thanks, all, for the affirmations that this is a normal phenomenon. Cyranoak - your pearls of wisdom are brilliant, again. Like barb, am putting that line somewhere close by to remind myself of this.
I guess I am surprised at how good it feels to realize what a darn people-pleaser I am and how much I resent it and how nice it is to let that go, while at the same time grappling with a real sense of responsibility - like I should be doing these things and if I don't, it makes me a bad person somehow. And how warped that sounds to write it it out in black and white.
Yeesh - no wonder my life has become unmanageable...its not because of my RAH and his issues...its because I let it get this way by my own stinkin thinkin!
I've come to realize that part of my 'inventory' is letting go of the old attitudes, behaviors, AND people that no longer work for me. Afraid that means my sister has got to go! At least until she decides to grow up.
Happy Friday, all! So glad its the weekend...