Hi nolly,
Welcome to SR. Here's my story. When my wife and I met and dated, we both wanted kids. Definitely 1 and maybe more. Probably more. For sure, 2...
Fast forward to now. My wife is an Alcoholic. We have a beautiful boy and he's 20 months old. She wants another baby. I will not give her another one. My hands are full with an AW. Their overflowing with a toddler and an AW. I would not want to bring another child into this world under my current AW and this is a very difficult thought for me to process.