Well, that's progress, right? Itty, bitty, baby steps progress? Good for him (no one kill me for saying this) for trying to respect you by not subjecting you to it anymore. I like this boundary - to me it makes sense that the A's can choose to drink if they want, but they can't drink around me or my family so go someplace else and do it.
But...I understand the "not having a husband" part. That's where I get tangled up in the "not fair" aspect of it all. I am still tangled. Do I want this life at all? Some days I do, other days I think forget this crap. I want a husband who can handle life and cope with stress and be ok with himself.
*BIG SIGH* its not an easy road, is it? But sounds like you are handling it better yourself. Good for you!