Originally Posted by
Summerpeach 
Sounds like you're still caught in the "dance" with him.
I hate to say it, but if he's done this before and you're still hanging with him, isn't that like asking for it?
Absolutely Not!!
Women do not ask to be abused. These not so subtle threats are
abuse period.
She may fall from time to time thinking there may be hope for change, thus the "dance," but I think that is far from "asking for it."
She does not deserve to be treated this way, nor did she ask for it by any of her actions.
HE IS RESPONCIBLE FOR HIS OWN ACTIONS! Actually, those words you wrote are what he is telling himself to rationalize his behavior!
I suggest you read the book by Lundy Bancroft about abusive men even if you are not abused. Education about domestic Violence is important to our society, my friend.
"Why does he do that?" by Lundy Bancroft