Maybe this is the bottom you have to hit to realize that you can't really help him, so you are better off putting the energy into helping yourself. Since you profess hate for him I don't think he deserves you sacrificing your own health, sanity, and safety when he does nothing in return for you.
Weigh your options, but you and your daughter come first. If you find yourself making a choice and he would be the one benifitting from it, stop yourself. Stay strong.
