quack, quack, quack.
this is common. We are supposed to act like nothing happened because THEY have said it is all ok now. But what about all the years they didn't listen to us? Conveniently forgotten, right?
have you thought about letting him go? This is most likely just false bravado. His friends, who are also recovering alcoholics and have a deluded reality of the world around them, know better than you? Right.
And if it's not false bravado, you can't make anyone love you.
In any marriage at any time, one of the partners can just decide to move on.
Let him quack. Take two aspirin. And post back in a couple days. I bet you feel better.