Bobby,
I hear how you are grieving about your daughter. I am sorry about that.
You will have to forgive yourself for mistakes, otherwise, it will be hard to move on from here.
Forgiveness is a tough one, first you have to accept the past as it cannot be changed.
I had to remind myself of this over and over.
Then, learn how to do better, and do better.
Do the next right thing.
I understand why you have such little trust in your AH. He is very early in his sobriety, and he must attend those meetings for himself.
Have you found an AlAnon meeting for yourself?
You could focus on you, and learn how to live.
It's a great thing, I recommend it highly.
Beth
PS
I love the way you wrote PROBLEM: then SOLUTION.