Of course he HATES your detachment...you are no longer playing the role he scripted for you. The role of obsessed, doting wife, focused solely on his well-being, and plaything to his manipulations.
Be strong. Remember your boundaries and don't be afraid to express them. Remember that if you don't take care of yourself, no one will!
And finally, remember that we codies teach others how to treat us. Right now, your AH is just having to relearn and you know what they say about old dogs...
