Hi mspaige
to Sober Recovery. I hope that you will stay around here, keep reading and posting, and also read the Stickies at the top of the forum page. I am glad you have family for support and that you are going to Al Anon. When I first started working on my Recovery, I was also involved with an alcoholic man who is also a crack addict. My life was painful and tumultuous to say the least. Over time I learned about Detachment and practiced many of the tools I learned in meetings. One thing I learned about myself was that I tended to React to him and the things he did, which contributed to my problems. Eventually I learned that I needed to get crystal clear on exactly what I wanted for my life. That helped me to take the reins and control my decisions and actions.
(((hugs))) Just want you to know, it took nearly two years of Recovery before I was able to break free from that guy, to do what I knew I needed to do for my well being.