I think its a good idea to do something special for yourself. I thought of getting myself flowers. I sent out cards to a few friends. Nothing else planned. I am not expecting to hear from my husband at all. Last year when he saw that I had left him a card and chocolate on the kitchen table, he ran out to the car and came back with a cd of tribal flutes. He said he hoped it would bring me peace because he thought I needed peace in my life. When I said it was very thoughtful of him he replied, "I know". We had already decided to separate. At the time I was trying to be positive but every time I told the story I realized how ludicrous the whole thing was.